About a month ago, one of my sisters tagged me in a video she recorded of Family Feud, a game show where two families compete for a cash prize by trying to find the most popular answers to a variety of questions. My sister wrote:. My sister tagged me in this post knowing my background in fat studies and sexuality studies and as a fat masculine person , knowing I would agree with her frustrations. Instead it perpetuated body terrorism against fat bodies to score cheap laughs. The myth: The fact that this myth is the most popular of the six given answers — 34 of the people originally surveyed gave this or a similarly-worded answer — is troubling in itself. If a classically attractive person of any gender is with a fat man, the general assumption is that this fat man has to have money or some sort of power. Why else would someone who could presumably get with anyone they wanted choose to be with a disgusting fat man, right? This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing all their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have. The truth: While there are, of course, some people who only seek relationships for money or power, the truth is that quite often, people will choose to be with a fat man because they actually want to be with him.
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I was 16, a size 14 and it was — long before body positivity hit the mainstream or my Tumblr feed. Now, as a year-old woman wearing a size 20, the shagging game has changed year on year as my body has gotten bigger and the dating pool has gotten smaller. The latter is the most insulting. In short: it's a minefield. If only someone could write a handy guide Oh go on then, here we go. I think this is what some guys were hoping would happen too.
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Ever wondered how a sex coach decides to make sex their job? Athena Mae found her unlikely calling as a teenager, when friends came to her with their questions. Then she started teaching body-positive sex education. This is what 20 years of shedding myths about sex and body size has taught her. And, yep, she tells it straight Lads seek out the fattest woman they can find, and the competition is to sleep with her and then display her as a trophy, exposing her to public ridicule. That happened to me at As I stood there in front of that jeering crowd, I thought, 'I need a superhero to rescue me'. In that moment, I decided I would be my own hero.
The F Word is a series celebrating what it means to be fat — from destigmatizing the word to taking stock of the discrimination fat people face. Whatever size you are — fat, skinny, or anywhere in between — you should feel comfortable and good about what you are doing, and that includes sex. Just you. To get more clear on what consent means and entails check out this cool graphic brought to you by Planned Parenthood. And, of course, there are many ways to make sex safer, which you can learn more about here. Lube is an absolute necessity for anal sex , and with penetrative sex, lube can actually make sex easier and more enjoyable as well as help prevent possible micro-tears in the vagina and anus caused by a lot of friction. The handle has a long reach, making it a win for vulvas.